#without plastic surgery

[the-lions-mouth]

a straight man recently tried to tell me that 1970s al pacino (in bobby deerfield!!!!!) was ugly. further evidence that we were right all along and straight people really don’t know anything

[aroaceleovaldez]

one of these days i've gotta post a photo of my ear so that the fandom has a reference of what a real life natural pointy ear looks like. cause i have one of those! and how people draw Leo's ears is a very niche nitpick of mine

[genderkoolaid]

can people please just be normal about breast implants. I just saw a video where the whole thing was just. a girl on a rollercoaster having a good time and the "joke" was that she had breast implants & you could tell. groundbreaking concept but breast implants are both morally neutral + important for a lot of people who have dysphoria. pointing out that someone has them isn't a good joke you're just being a dick

[probably-a-human-being]

Lookism is so funny to me because usually it's a normal battle shonen but every now and again it just goes "hey what if the most horrifying thing you can imagine actually happened" and then it just goes back to normal and pretends that didn't happen.

[fitzrove]

Hate when someone online vents about not liking traditionally feminine things - and ESPECIALLY not liking the fact that society forces them to do it - and every response is

a) pick me accusation

b) "i used to be like you too but now i love my 294050 step skin care routine and playing with makeup and skinny jeans and gilmore girls teehee :) you'll grow out of it <3 anyway you should like it more because it's really good for you and helps your confidence!! Don't you want to have something to talk about with other girls :3"

c) "it's not valid to say you hate those things that's misogynist :("

d) "those things are not gendered, everyone should have a 294050 step skin care routine and wear makeup <3 especially queer people regardless of gender because everyone knows queer = femininity and if you don't do this you're ugly and boring and also queerphobic"

The worst thing is that some queer women do this, like bestie I thought living outside a pretty major societal norm meant we all had to reflect on the ways in which society (and the people it consists of) tries to put everyone in a box and, you know, fight it when we see it....... Even some lesbians do this and if you call it out they say "just because i'm a lesbian doesn't mean i'm not hot and conventionally attractively feminine!!" which I find terrible

[songmingisthighs]

stupid is twtiny convincing people that ateez ABSOLUTELY HATES KQ using wooyoung being a little shit by pronouncing brand names on wanteez as "proof"

[green-mug-tomato-juice]

the way plastic surgery functions as an industry now makes me so fucking angry. my dad considered having a nose job all my childhood and i'm so glad he never did. he's beautiful. i remember how the thought made me sick as a kid, him going to the hospital and being put to sleep and cut with a knife because white people think his nose is too big. plastic surgery is amazing as a medical tool for trans people and those with disfigurements. body modification is something everybody should have the freedom to do if they wish. but plastic surgery as a capitalist industry is a form of colonialist violence on the non-white, non-normative body. i will forever fight you if you call someone i love ugly. if you say so much as a word to make them believe they are not worthy of being loved and admired exactly as they are i will fucking ruin you. their body belongs to them and only them. fuck you fuck you fuck you

[uncanny-tranny]

I know I've talked about this before, but as somebody with Strong features who has been mocked for it, it really infuriates me when people bully others for changing their strong features through surgery instead of criticizing beauty culture, you know, a big issue as to why people with strong or ethnic features are often bullied or even discriminated against. When you bully people for altering their appearance through surgery, you may just be victim-blaming somebody. Beauty culture is the issue, not somebody using their bodily autonomy as they see fit.

[subsequentibis]

oh i wanted longlegs to be so much weirder than it was. it needed like three more script revisions and some deeper interrogation of the genre it sprang from, and someone to gently take the sound designer's hand on the volume dial and turn it down juuuuust a bit. i need the actual movie to be what scares me, not someone dropping a hammer on the piano to tell me i ought to be scared.

[nancywheeeler]

always disheartening to see so many women who would call themselves feminists still willing to go to the mat for plastic surgery. "it's their bodies and their money! don't shame them!" okay....so you don't want to interrogate at all why an increasing number of women are getting elective surgery to live up to inherently racist, ageist, and misogynistic beauty standards?

[mintedwitcher]

inch resting how everyone's all up in arms about bodily autonomy and doing what makes you feel good about yourself and personal empowerment etc until it comes to cosmetic surgery.

why is it I wonder that body modification like tattoos and piercings are fine but rhinoplasty and boob jobs are unacceptable?

why is it that you'll understand "doing it for me" when it comes to makeup or hair or tattoos but not plastic surgery?

why is it that you can comprehend gender affirming surgeries being a way to make one's body feel more like their own, but not realise that a tummy tuck can have the same positive effect?

I just find that. really fucking interesting.

[ningningkittie]

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[viktuurionice]

Personal stuff lmao

Body positivity I guess? Definitely talking about body image here

I have an interview in a little bit and I was getting ready in my underwear because I didn't want to fully change just yet, and for once I look kinda cute?

I could see myself in the mirror and my first thought wasn't "ew, disgusting"

Like I've only lost a little bit of weight recently but I think I look cute? I have a lot of body image issues and I'm just... Kinda happy that I don't feel like I look gross today. Like my body image issues have always been there and are probably never gonna go away based of how I was raised but it's nice to not look at myself and have the knee-jerk reaction of thinking I look disgusting. I got to that point a few years ago before gaining weight and now it's coming back a little and I'm happy about it.

[biceratops7]

There I said it

[creations-by-chaosfay]

A thing I pre-ordered months ago has shipped!

What's the thing?

Keepsake Quilting, and several other quilt companies/stores, put a sort of gift box together with fabric, notions, patterns, and gift cards in them. You don't know what you're getting, making it a surprise. I have never purchased one because they're expensive. This was 50% upfront, 50% when shipped, for a total of $150. Considering how much is in it, and what reviews were left the last several years, it's a steal. Plus, I wanna treat myself after having such a stressful and unpleasant year.

My mom and one of aunts have ordered such boxes in the past, but according to my mom, they're disappointing because she has so many of the things in the package, or no use for many of them. Rulers (some of which cost $30), needles, rotary cutters and extra blades (blades can be $10/each, new cutters up to $50), fabric marking tools (chalk pencils, disappearing ink, etc), precut fabric collections (jelly rolls can be $80, fat quarter collections up to $100 depending on number of FQs), and yardage ($12.99-$21.99/yard). She's been disappointed by "ugly" fabric too many times.

I, on the other hand, have significantly fewer tools. I make things for people to buy, and some folks love fabric I cannot stand (like x-mas and patriotic prints). There have been fabrics I consider well and truly hideous, and those I list in my shop or sell to people here. One person's trash is another's treasure, right? I've met people who think pastels are ugliest things to have ever existed. I think baby pink and green military camouflage look fantastic together, as well as turquoise and light hemp brown or terracotta and peacock blue. My mom finds them hideous. I think pink and any shade of brown look terrible together, or red and khaki (likely from working at Target and seeing is everywhere). Again, personal taste.

If any of you ever fancy treating me to one of these random collections of fabric and/or notions, feel free to do so. They're the sort of surprise I enjoy (that and people purchasing my work, especially from my shop). Sure, there are things that may he of no use to me, but others can use them. Nothing goes to waste.

This package will be arriving on November 18th, and has me giggling with excitement!

[rabbitrah]

Has anyone else noticed that some of the really vocal anti-makeup anti-plastic surgery people manage to swing back around and sound like 1700s puritans again? Like don't get me wrong, there are a lot of valid criticisms of powerful misogynistic industries, but some of the "How Dare You Artificially Manipulate Your God Given Features" is side-eye inducing. I think that there is no victory until choosing to alter or not alter your appearance is a completely neutral task, something that is not required, not forbidden, not praised, not derided, not rewarded, not punished.